So i just figured that i’d mention that i made a side blog for my writing and things in case any of you guys were interested. The little icon that you’ll see there is a painting i made last year and all of my work will be tagged with my name (my name is tacia by the way). I’d appreciate constructive criticism if you have any to offer.
the url is totus-tuus-tacia, but to make things easier, here is a link:
thanks in advance for checking it out x
Anonymous asked: a co-worker always puts his hands on me, pinches me and yesterday he was like holding me closer into his body and running his hands on my stomach, which made me very uncomfortable and when I pulled away he just followed suit to do the same thing. He's way older then I am 60ish and is really nice, I don't want to cause I scene I just want to do my job and go home. This is the 3rd time someone has done something like this to me, is it my fault? Do I attract these kinds of people?
[pulls out megaphone]
THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT
THIS IS THE FAULT OF OUR SHITTY SOCIETY THAT IS RIFE WITH RAPE CULTURE AND THE IDEA THAT WOMEN’S BODIES ARE PUBLIC PROPERTY
I HATE TO BREAK IT TO YOU, HONEY, BUT IF THIS MAN IS TOUCHING YOU, IT DOES NOT MEAN HE IS “REALLY NICE,” IT MEANS HE’S A PIECE OF SHIT WITH NO SENSE OF BOUNDARIES
GO TO YOUR BOSS AND TELL THEM YOU FEEL THREATENED BY THIS MAN. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO RAISE YOUR VOICE AND MAKE A SCENE, I GUARANTEE YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST PERSON HE’S TREATED THIS WAY AND, IF YOU DO NOT PUT A STOP TO IT, HE WILL CONTINUE TO TOUCH PEOPLE IN UNWANTED WAYS AND MAKE THEM UNCOMFORTABLE. MAKE A SCENE. BE A BITCH. TELL HIM TO GET HIS FUCKING HANDS OFF. YOU DESERVE A WORKPLACE WHERE YOU ARE RESPECTED AND UNAFRAID, AND HE (HIM HIM HIM HIM) IS THE PROBLEM HERE, NOT YOU.
[throws megaphone into the abyss]
You know that feeling you get when you really like someone and you hold their hand for the first time? How it just feels so satisfying to know they have the same feelings for you? It feels like a sexual release. It’s such a light, timid hand hold. Like, they can let go easily if they want and you can too but you both try so hard to hold onto each other so lightly. It just feels so innocent and right. Literally one of the best feelings in the world.
(Source: , via the-perks-of-being-a-loner)
you-wish-you-had-this-url asked: I've been seeing a lot of people talk about Gus sounding really pretentious in the movie, do you think he sounds pretentious?
I mean, that scene is word-for-word from the book, so don’t blame the movie! :) Yes, Gus is super pretentious at the start of the story. it’s a character flaw.
Gus wants to have a big and important and remembered life, and so he acts like he imagines people who have such lives act. So he’s, like, says-soliloquy-when-he-means-monologue pretentious, which is the most pretentious variety of pretension in all the world.
And then his performative, over-the-top, hyper-self-aware pretentiousness must fall away for him to really connect to Hazel, just as her fear of being a grenade must fall away. That’s what the novel is about. That is its plot.
Gus must make the opposite of the traditional heroic journey—he must start out strong and end up weak in order to reimagine what constitutes a rich and well-lived life.
Basically, a 20-second clip from the first five minutes of a movie is not the movie.
(Standard acknowledgement here that I might be wrong, that I am inevitably defensive of TFIOS, that it has many flaws, that there’s nothing wrong with critical discussion, and that a strong case could be made that I should not insert myself into these conversations at all.)